George asks…
Why don't girls like me? I'm so lonely.?
Well, I guess I should say a little about myself before delving into the question itself.
To start, I'm 15, just entered 10th grade, with a 4.0 GPA in 9th grade.
The rundown of my personality is that I'm very artistic, creative, and I'm often complimented on being spontaneous by friends. I love all rock music 50's through 90's from Elvis and Hendrix to Slayer and Pantera. I'm a musician, I play guitar, drums, bass, and I sing. Pretty simple, no?
For my appearance, I'm 5'8, 128 lbs., I do work out once or twice a week and I do my best to keep in shape. I play parkour on a good basis (3-5 times a week.) All in all I'm a generally skinny dude. I have long hair, past my shoulders, and wear glasses. I'm always recognized for leather jackets, band tees, and bell bottoms or worn jeans. I wouldn't say I'm the best looking guy at all, but I'm not terrible (I suppose).
I've looked through at least 30 internet pages asking the same question of "Why Can't I get a girlfriend?" From all the readings, I've eliminated the following reasons as to why I can't get a girlfriend.
1. I keep in good hygiene, shower every day, brush my hair and teeth every day, wear deodorant and stay an all around clean person.
2. I don't treat girls too shitty or too nice: I see plenty of guys treating girls like absolute shit and yet the the girl still loves him, which pisses me off to absolutely NO end. I absolutely refuse to stoop to that level of douchebaggery even if it does mean I won't get a girlfriend. Although I would never disrespect a women like that, I don't come on as a pushover. I try not to be TOO nice, and I really just all around avoid sounding like an easy catch. Don't get me wrong though, I'm a nice guy at heart.
3. I have confidence. Half the guys I see aren't even bothering to TRY asking the girls out. I've asked plenty of girls out, but they all rejected me. Even when I went up with more confidence than I knew I had, I got shot down in flames.
4. I've tried different approaches. I've taken every approach I can think of. I tried becoming friends first and getting to know the girl first, which is my favorite approach. I've tried being blunt about it and going up to a girl and asking out of the blue if she wanted to go on a date. I've even done the creative ways that require a ton of work, like the time the I asked a girl for math work help and put the third question as "will you go out with me?"
5. I always make sure the girls are available. When I meet a girl I always find out if she has a boyfriend before making a move of any kind. Even if the girl has a boyfriend I wait til at least a month after they break up to go for her.
6. I'm patient. This is a pretty simple one, I can wait, even though I don't like it.
7. I've tried playing "hard to get" but it hasn't worked, and neither has trying to be "mysterious" about things.
8. I try not to be sound clingy or of a clingy nature. I'm a really clingy person, and I know that can screw things up for me, but I've become skilled at holding it back.
9. I don't shoot for any one type of girl. I generally don't care whether she's hot as long as she's not SUPER ugly. I actually prefer "cute" looking girls over "naughty" or "sexy" looking girls.
10. I'm not shy. I put myself out there and I'm not afraid to express my opinion.
11. I have a sense of humor. I know this one isn't a big factor, but I take a huge amount of pride in my humor and I love to make people laugh.
Next, I have a lot of dating experience. Keep in mind that my last relationship ended over a year and a half ago. I dated 11 girls total. Most lasting somewhere between 2 weeks and a month. Also, I had one that lasted for half a year, but I had to break up with her when I found out she was cheating on me. However, all my girlfriends admitted after breaking up that they had a fun time with me while it lasted and that I'm a romantic guy.
To just about wrap everything else up, PLEASE, I beg of you, PLEASE none of the following:
"You just have to wait for your perfect girl." - Please give me a break. This one's not as bad as some others but I hate seeing this, especially being in such a lonely mood right now.
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." -Don't give me this crap either, the girls I like obviously don't like me for some reason or another.
"You're too mature for those girls." - This one I don't mind, and I know its true, but I've seen it all before and its getting old.
"OMG I wish you came to my school I'd totally date you!" - If I was at your school, we'd be going out. I also hate these answers because they don't help at all, and only make me wi
@Jazz: You're the kind of person that I DIDN'T want answering. Thanks for nothing.
@Maddi: Don't I wish I lived in the 70's. And the reason I typed so much was to avoid retarded answers.
@Chris: What the fuck is the best bet?
@Elizabeth: You just basically told me what I DIDN'T want to hear.
@Sound Advice: How about you fuck off. Okay? :D
@Here Comes The Drums: (Nice name by the way) Yeah I know what you mean, I obviously don't have it.
@Diiiva: Thanks, but I look even weirder without glasses, and I look hideous with short hair.
@Lisa: First answer that made me smile, hell yeah, cheers! But, I don't think it's that, as there are over 800 girls in our school and I've only asked out about 20-30.
@Mysterious Sugar: Did you even read my question?
admin answers:
Everything I read about you seemed like you were a really cool guy, but the only problem for me is that you have long hair plus glasses. I hate long hair on guys (unless you're aragorn from the lord of the rings) and when someone has long hair with glasses (glasses without long hair I have no problem with) it just doesn't sound good.
So i'm guessing maybe it's down to your looks?
Also, I don't see why you need to be in a relationship anyway, what's wrong with being single?
The only reason it hasn't worked out with these girls was becoz they weren't the right girl for you.
And if you're lonely, then surround yourself with friends instead to keep yourself busy.
And look, it may take you a 100 girls before you find one that does stick by you, but the thing is, you should keep trying if it means that much to you.
And forget trying other methods, just go be yourself.
Chris asks…
I want to talk to a girl but i'm really Shy, and i think she may likes me. Please read all : )?
Please, would be cool if you read this all, this could help me A LOT and make me VERY VERY happy. Hey, i'm 13 and i'm in LOVE with a girl, i can only think in her all day long, i started to love her about 1 month ago. I only see her 2 days a week, on my english class ( i'm from brazil ). I added her 1 month ago in a social website ( very familiar to facebook) called ORKUT and she accepted. At my english class, i want to talk with her but i'm REALLY shy to talk with her. She is also a shy girl, a very quiet girl. I saw in her ORKUT that she sings ( she travels to many different cities to sing with her band ) she is not popular at all, i mean, she is not that outgoing girl who talk with everyboy, who dances till the floor. She is own her own, and her friends are mostly girls ( which is very good for me ) She also has FACEBOOK, but i'm shy to add her cause i already added her on ORKUT ( previously said) so i feel strange to add her on facebook, but i really want to add her. Today, on my english class, we had a presentation, and it was her turn ( presentation, we need to stand in the middle of the whole class and speak about a sport that we researched at home, in her case, volleyball) she said to the teacher she is shy, the teacher calmed her down. Before her presentation, she looked at me for 2 seconds and i noticed. While her presentation ( it took 2 minutes) she also looked at me for 2 secs. I was the person that only her looked at. On our previous class, she was sitting next to me because all of the desks were full. In the middle of the class, she asked me ''I was absent last class, did the teacher gave our tests grade?'' and smiled. I said ''Repeat sorry'' and smiled back. She repeated, then i said '' Oh yeah of course, ask her your grade'' Then she asked the teacher. I think she may like me, what do you people think? oh and yes, this would be the first girl i would kiss, please give me some guides. I need some subject to talk with her, and i know she sings and play little big planet 2 ( playstation 3 ) i play the bass guitar( i'm very good) and i also play little big planet 2 ( playstation 3 ) So please, awnser ;
1 - Is it normal to add her in facebook as i already added her on another social web page ?
2 - I want to talk with her but i'm SUPER shy and i can't.
3 - When talking with her, what to talk about ? !
4 - I never talked to her, she just asked me a thing < i wrote above what exactly >
Also, i wear very good looking clothes, always brush my teeth a lot and put a lot of perfume. Does she like me? how to talk with her ? Sorry for my english!
admin answers:
1. Yes it is normal to add someone on another social site
2. If your to shy, pass notes, or talk to her on the social sites
3. Share intrests, what you like, AND what she likes
complaiment her on how she looks, she might like you!
Hope it helped! :)
Laura asks…
I'm shy to talk with a girl who i love and i also think she ''likes'' me.?
Please, would be cool if you read this all, this could help me A LOT and make me VERY VERY happy. Hey, i'm 13 and i'm in LOVE with a girl, i can only think in her all day long, i started to love her about 1 month ago. I only see her 2 days a week, on my english class ( i'm from brazil ). I added her 1 month ago in a social website ( very familiar to facebook) called ORKUT and she accepted. At my english class, i want to talk with her but i'm REALLY shy to talk with her. She is also a shy girl, a very quiet girl. I saw in her ORKUT that she sings ( she travels to many different cities to sing with her band ) she is not popular at all, i mean, she is not that outgoing girl who talk with everyboy, who dances till the floor. She is own her own, and her friends are mostly girls ( which is very good for me ) She also has FACEBOOK, but i'm shy to add her cause i already added her on ORKUT ( previously said) so i feel strange to add her on facebook, but i really want to add her. Today, on my english class, we had a presentation, and it was her turn ( presentation, we need to stand in the middle of the whole class and speak about a sport that we researched at home, in her case, volleyball) she said to the teacher she is shy, the teacher calmed her down. Before her presentation, she looked at me for 2 seconds and i noticed. While her presentation ( it took 2 minutes) she also looked at me for 2 secs. I was the person that only her looked at. On our previous class, she was sitting next to me because all of the desks were full. In the middle of the class, she asked me ''I was absent last class, did the teacher gave our tests grade?'' and smiled. I said ''Repeat sorry'' and smiled back. She repeated, then i said '' Oh yeah of course, ask her your grade'' Then she asked the teacher. I think she may like me, what do you people think? oh and yes, this would be the first girl i would kiss, please give me some guides. I need some subject to talk with her, and i know she sings and play little big planet 2 ( playstation 3 ) i play the bass guitar( i'm very good) and i also play little big planet 2 ( playstation 3 ) So please, awnser ;
1 - Is it normal to add her in facebook as i already added her on another social web page ?
2 - I want to talk with her but i'm SUPER shy and i can't.
3 - When talking with her, what to talk about ? !
4 - I never talked to her, she just asked me a thing < i wrote above what exactly >
Also, i wear very good looking clothes, always brush my teeth a lot and put a lot of perfume. Does she like me? how to talk with her ? Sorry for my english!
admin answers:
I almost have the exact same problem right now, I like a girl, but I'm just too shy around her.
1. If you think she likes you, then add her on facebook so she might also think you're intrested in her. I'm not sure if Orkut has a chat feature, but if it does, then chat with her. I noticed that it's a lot easier to talk to a girl online, which is obvious.
3. Start with a topic that both of you may be intrested in, that way you will know what you're talking about.
I understand how you feel since I am going through the exact same thing. My answers are just my opinions on what you could do and I don't have answers for the rest of your questions unfortunatley since I don't know what to do myself.
Ruth asks…
What names fit these people?
These are the characters in my story. Help me name them?
The first five are in a band together.
1.Girl.Long blond hair, bubbly, athletic, pretty. Wears clothes that are surfer-style. Plays guitar. Amazing singer. Smart. Not popular, not a loser. Hangs out and mingles and talks to every group from the drama geeks to the Abercrombie queens. A leader. Curly hair. Skateboards.
2. Girl. Secretive, depressed, awkward, "emo", sorta geeky. Short black hair. Extreme tom boy. Plays bass. Sort of goes with what everybody else is doing. Hilarious sense of humor. Spends a lot of time on the computer.
3. Girl. Medium strawberry blond hair. Funniest person you will EVER meet. Plays guitar. Sort of sexual sense of humor. Freckly. Dresses sporty. Arty. A huge twilight fan. Hazel eyes. Loud. Loves pranks.
4. Girl. Shoulder length brown hair. Plays guitar. Adorable. Short. Heeuuggee anime freak, has anime everything. Good singer, but shy about it. Giggly. Brown eyes.
5. Boy. Brown eyes. Flippy light brown hair. Skateboarder. Plays drums. Plays lacrosse. Sort of cocky, but really is a sweetheart when you break him down. A flirt.
6.Girl. Sister to #1. Bleach blond hair comparable to cotton candy. Super skinny. Has a strong little flock of besties, but doesnt like being in groups. Loud and particularly a nuisance when around friends, but shy around new people. Dare devil. Large spacey smile. Round green eyes. Tom boy.
7.Girl. Best friend to #6. Very girly, and dresses fashionably. Straight and short brown hair. Blue eyes. Freckles. Shy around people she just met, but over all loud and outgoing.
8.Boy. Best friend to #1, sister to #7. Extremely tall. Acts older than he is. Same appearance and features as #7. Good friends with #5. Plays guitar. All around athletic. Jealous. Cute. Dresses american eagle style.
9. Cousin to #8 + #7. Brownish blond hair. Greenish brown eyes. Good friends with #1. Described as a "good little Christian boy". Really funny. Can pick up in someones conversation and just go with it. Kind. Plays guitar. Plays a lot of video games. Tall.
10.Girl. Best friend to everyone in the band. Redhead. Really smart in school, but not exactly street smart at times (has blond moments) Loves twilight. Has glasses. Boy crazy. Loves musicals, and music in general. Likes to sing randomly. Plays sports. Super tall.
11. Boy. Dating #4. Redhead. Sort of geeky. Dresses american eagle style. Wears track suits and sweat pants a lot. Eyes sort of match his hair. Funny in a shy sort of way. Voice cracks a lot. Best friend to #3.
Thanks!
Oh and can you use uncommon names? thanks.
admin answers:
1-Keira-Rose, Charlie, Lola, Roxanne, Cara, Maddie, Alyssa
2-Heather, Skylar, Ilene, Meg, Kirsty
3-Sophie, Emily, Hannah.
4- Alliyah, Olivia, Nikki, Elle, Evie.
5- Jake, Chase, Miles Alex
6- Natasha, Marissa, Paige, Blake
7-Abby, April, Tiffany
8- Noah, Oliver, Bradly, Sam, Alex
9- Andrew, Christopher
10-Amber, Summer, Jessica, Fleur, Scarrlet
11- Harry, Will, Tom
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