Chris asks…
Would it be a bad idea to stop by and visit this girl?
Im a shy guy and have always been shy aroung girls...anyway theres this girl that i know from hs but never really talked to...me and her go to the same college. i kinda wanna hang out with her cuz she seems cool and all...a while ago on facebook she told me her dorm room # and that i could stop by at anytime...i have asked her for her phone # on facebook so i can call her to let her know if im coming by...i have asked like 3 times and she hasnt given me her #...would it be a bad idea to just come by anyway and knock on her door without calling?
also i i added her on AIm but she hasnt IMed me back and I Imed her 2 times
admin answers:
No. It's obvious that you are stalking her now. You should have went by the first time she said it was okay, just to see if she really wanted you to come over or if she was being nice.
On the other hand, my friends call me & we make plans to stop by each other's home's or hang out over the weekend. However, we never end up doing it or even calling. Sometimes people get busy.
Richard asks…
Would it be too stalkerish to stop by and visit this girl?
GUYS....what would u do in this situation?
Im a shy guy and have always been shy aroung girls...anyway theres this girl that i know from hs but never really talked to...me and her go to the same college. i kinda wanna hang out with her cuz she seems cool and all...a while ago on facebook she told me her dorm room # and that i could stop by at anytime...i have asked her for her phone # on facebook so i can call her to let her know if im coming by...i have asked like 3 times and she hasnt given me her #...would it be a bad idea to just come by anyway and knock on her door without calling?
also i i added her on AIm but she hasnt IMed me back and I Imed her 2 times
admin answers:
U sound a bit stalkerish. Just let nothing happen for a while and then talk to her if u hav the same classes or something. That way she wont think u really are a stalker
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Robert asks…
Im scared of kissing...?
So i am single, never have been in a relationship, never kissed or hooked up with anyone before and am a freshmen in college now. I have a friend who goes to the same school as me. We really only became friends senior year near the end but not good friends. We hung out in a group one time.
Anyways, he keeps on asking me to hang out and thats cool and all but he wants to come hang out in my dorm room. And i know him, he likes to hook up with people. And im worried he wants to hook up with me.
The problem is is that i have no experience and am kind of scared of just doing it. Is that normal? i am like really afraid of even the thought of kissing someone. And i also i am the 'old fashion' type of person who doesnt like the thought of random hookups. I like the idea of relationships. And i know he isnt looking for anything like that, hes looking for some girls to get with.
i dont know what to do. i keep on ignoring his requests to hang out for the past week. i was going to talk about it with my sister but i didnt think she would understand. i want to talk to someone but i feel like they would judge me.
thanks for any help at all. i know this isnt even really a question lol
admin answers:
It seems to me that there are two issues at stake here.
First, if you aren't into random hookups, you need to deal with your friend upfront instead of making excuses, because you're going to run out of those sooner or later. Just tell him straight up that you don't mind hanging out, but you don't feel comfortable having him up in your dorm room. If he asks why, tell him the truth. Your feelings are completely honorable and valid, and if he's any kind of friend at all, he'll respect that you aren't the kind of girl who is looking for someone to just hook up with.
Second, you don't have to be afraid of kissing. When it's with the right person and at a time when you're both comfortable and wanting it, it'll just kind of happen, and it won't be scary. And your experience level won't matter at that point, trust me. I've kissed guys with a lot more and a lot less experience than me, and some of the worst kisses I've had have been with the more experienced ones. Some of the best ones have been with the relative "newbies." :-) I think it all depends on your feelings for each other. I'm not just talking about lust or physical attraction, but how much you care about each other and respect one another.
Hope I helped!
Sandy asks…
any advice helps. 10 points to best?
10 points to best answer, any advice helps?
Alright, theres a girl who clearly likes me, exhibits all the signs (laughs at all my jokes, stares right into my eyes, remembers everything i say, asks me out to eat, invites me into her dorm room, says things like, "see those two over there? theyre in a relationship. isnt that nice?", lightly teases me and mimics me, and spills her heart out to me with secrets and touching me).
Well, i asked her out on a serious date, to dinner off campus, and she said yes. The next day, when i asked her where she wanted to go, she said i dont really mind, but is this just a friendly date or something more serious?
So i told her how i felt and she said that she wasnt really ready for a relationship cuz there's too much going on in her life and really couldnt handle any extra things. ( we're both freshman in college, and known each other about 2 weeks) and thanked me for being so cool about it, and never really said lets just be friends, we just started talking about other things. I mean she really doesnt have very many guy friends and all of them who i know really are of no threat.
So, we finished chatting and went back to our rooms and i thought the best idea would be to treat her as a close friend and not pressure her at all
But, is she just messing with me? i mean all the signs say she likes me and i like her, but is it just one of those things where i have to be patient, which i can be or is it futile.
admin answers:
She loves the idea of being in a relationship and the companionshp it brings but she's afraid to get into one right now. There's so much thats new in her life and she doesn't want any more changes. Just take things slowly.
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